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Lifestyle Dictionary:
AC/DC - Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity (see BI; BISEXUAL).
ADULT - Another word for pornographic.
ALL CULTURES - Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE).
ANAL SEX - Anal intercourse (see GREEK; GREEK CULTURE).
ANALINGUS - Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.
ARTS - Another word for fetishes (see CULTURE).
B&D or B/D - Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM).
BBW - Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal" weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are.
BDSM - A combination of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). A wide range of sexual activities having to do with power.
BI - Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC).
BI-CURIOUS - A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities, but does not consider themselves bi-sexual by definition.
BIZARRE - Unusual sexual desires.
BONDAGE - A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
CAN ENTERTAIN - Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
CAN TRAVEL - Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing, or meet in a third party location.
CANING - A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
CHEATING - Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
CLEAN - Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
CLOSED DOOR
(see CLOSED SWINGING).
CLOSED SWINGING - Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.
CLOSET SWINGER - A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET).
COUPLE - In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
CPL - (see COUPLE).
CUCKOLD - While the original meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband whose wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.
CULTURE - Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.
CUNNILINGUS - Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE).
D/D FREE - Drug/Disease Free, meaning that a couple/person is STD free and does not use drugs.
DILDO - An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
DIRECTOR - The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
DISCIPLINE - A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
DISCREET OR DISCRETION - Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.
DOCILE - Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
DOMESTIC TRAINING - Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
DOMINANT - A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
ENGLISH CULTURE: - Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning.
ENTERTAIN - (see CAN ENTERTAIN).
EUROPEAN STYLE CLUB - One that requires clothing to be removed (sometimes after a certain time of night).
EXHIBITIONIST - Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.
F - Female.
FELLATIO - Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
FETISH - Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
FFM or FMF - Threesome involving two women and one man (see THREESOME).
FLAGELLATION - Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.
FRENCH CULTURE: - Oral-genital sexual activity (see FALLATIO; CUNNILINGUS).
FULL SWAP - Two couples exchanging partners for sexual intercourse usually means with penetration.(see SOFT SWAP).
FUN AND GAMES - Euphemism for sexual activity. Also known as "playing".
GAY - A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
GBM - Gay Black Male.
GOLDEN SHOWER - Refers to urine play (see WATERSPORTS).
GREEK CULTURE: - Anal-penile intercourse.
GROUP ROOM - Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
GROUP SEX - Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
HARD CORE - A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
HARD SWINGING - (see HARD CORE).
HEAD - Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see FRENCH CULTURE; FALLATIO; CUNNILINGUS).
HEDONIST - Someone who lives for pleasure.
HETEROSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY).
HORNY - Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure or gratification.
HUNG - Refers to a man with a large penis.
HWP - Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
INDOOR - Swinging activities in general.
INDOOR SPORTS - (See INDOOR).
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP - Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
IR - Interracial.
IRL - In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat.
ISO - In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female.
LEATHER - A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.
LESBIAN - A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY; HOMOSEXUAL).
LTR - Long Term Relationship.
M - Male.
MARITAL AIDS - Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
MASOCHISM - Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
MASTER/SLAVE - Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D; BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM).
MATROOM /MATTRESS ROOM - Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
MBC - Married Black Couple.
MBiC - Married Bisexual Couple.
MEET FOR PLEASURE - Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity..
MENAGE A TROIS - Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. Literal meaning "three in bed" (see THREESOME, TRIAD).
MFM or MMF - Threesome involving two men and one woman (see THREESOME).
MORESOMES - More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX).
MWC - Married White Couple.
NASCA - The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.
NEWCOMERS - New people in swinging; First-timers. aka- Newbies.
NONSMOKER - Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
OFF-PREMISE - No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.
ON-PREMISE - A club where sexual play is allowed. Private and Public rooms are usually provided for play.
OPEN DOOR - (see OPEN SWINGING).
OPEN RELATIONSHIP - A relationship in which participants are free to take other partners; may or may not be a polyamorous couple; may or may not be a swinging couple. If the couple is married they may describe themselves as having an open marriage.
OPEN SWINGING - A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.
ORAL-GENITAL - (see FRENCH; CUNNILINGUS; FELLATIO; HEAD).
ORGY - Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.
PARTY - Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
PARTY CLOTHES - Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
PARTY HOUSE (Western US) - A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
PASSIVE - Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE).
PHOTO - Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
PHOTOGRAPHY - Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
POLYAMORY - A love relationship involving more than 2 people.
P/P - Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).
PRO - Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
RECREATIONAL SWINGER n - A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.
RESTRAINT - Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactment.
ROMAN - Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc. (see ROMAN CULTURE).
ROMAN CULTURE: - Sexual orgies.
RUBBER - Condom means of contraception; OR Sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.
SAFE - Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.
S.A.S.E. - Self-addressed stamped envelope.
SBF - Single Black Female.
SBiF - Single Bisexual Female.
SBM - Single Black Male.
SGL - Single(see SINGLE).
S&M or S/M - Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM; MASOCHISM; BDSM).
SCAT - refers to the use of excrament/fecal matter.
SINGLE - A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.
SOCIAL - A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
SOCIAL SWING CLUB - A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
SODOMY - Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.
SOFT SWINGERS - Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.
SOFT SWAP - Two couples exchanging partners for certain types of sexual activity (defined by the couples involved); if intercourse takes place it is only between primary partners (see FULL SWAP).
SOFT SWINGING - The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
SRS - Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
STD - Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
STR or STR8 - straight(see STRAIGHT).
STRAIGHT - Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.
SUBMISSIVE - Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive).
SWAPPING - Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. (see SOFT SWAP; FULL SWAP).
SWEDISH CULTURE: - Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another.
SWF - Single White Female.
SWM - Single White Male.
SWING MAGAZINE - A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.
SWINGING - An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.
SWINGING LIFESTYLE - Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
SWINGING MARRIAGE - Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
SWM - Single White Male.
TAN - Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS).
THREESOME - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois).
TICKET - A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
TOYS - Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS).
TRANSGENDERED - Individual who does not identify with his/her biologically assigned sex. Not related to sexual orientation.
TRANSSEXUAL - Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion.
TRANSVESTITE - A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.
TRAVEL - (see CAN TRAVEL).
TRIAD - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
TRIOLISM - Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD).
TUBAL LIGATION - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
UTOPIAN SWINGER - A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
VANILLA - Typically refers to non-swingers (ie. "vanilla friends").
VASECTOMY - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.
VERSATILE - Bisexual. (see AC/DC).
VIBRATOR - Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
VOLUPTUOUS - Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
VOYEUR - A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
VOYEURISM - Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.
WATERSPORTS - Typically refers to urine play.(see GOLDEN SHOWER).
WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS - Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.
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