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He Said:
I am a doctor (the PhD kind) and a lawyer (I don’t currently practice). On occasion, I teach at local universities. I’m a second generation swinger, and started playing with multiple partners (at the same time) in my teens. My group of friends was exploring multiple sex partners well before we pair-bonded as boyfriends and girlfriends. For us, simple feel-good sex was much easier and less complicated than the concept of being in a relationship at an early age. Our group consisted of about thirty kids, male and female, that all grew up in South Florida without tan lines. My parents were nudists and swingers (they called it “wife-swapping” in those days). My father was a professor at a prominent local university where many of the university faculty were swingers with my parents. On weekends, my parents would host barbecues at my house where after dinner the kids would remain in the pool playing (we never wore bathing suits) and the parents would retreat inside of the house, lock the doors, and play with each other.
Okay, now a little bit about us, what we like and what we do. We have been married for over fourteen years and full swapping for about eleven years. We full swap regularly as an alternate activity to unwind and simply for the fun of full swap sex with different partners. Both of us have high profile, “pressure cooker” careers and let off steam by having sex with our playcouple friends. Every month we try to meet at least one new couple. We don’t spend a lot of time in the “multiple dating process”; almost always we full swap at the first meeting. Full swap is about sex, not long-term dating or finding running mates. In our experience, if the sex is great, then usually the long-lasting friendship follows. All of the couples we play with want the same thing as we do; lots of low-pressure, full penetration, all the way, full swap sex. It’s very basic: we really like the feeling of multiple orgasms and the variety of different playmates.
We carefully select and limit our full swap to only playing with long-term secure couples. Toward that end, we avoid threesomes, singles, and couples “just dating”. This has been our best insurance against disease and troubled people. Attitude and personality are far more important to us than physical appearance, age, or social status. Over the years, we have played with beauties, beasts, early twenties, geriatrics, the economically challenged, and the very rich; each offers a special and sometimes endearing uniqueness. It’s the different contrasts that makes full swap so much fun for us.
We both are disease free and baby safe. With respect to “safe sex”, in our experience the safest form of safe sex is in the selection process when determining with whom we play.
In our life, time is a premium, so we usually spend the majority of our time with a playcouple just having sex. Fifty percent of the time we forgo meeting at a “club for drinks” or the “getting to know you dinner”. In other words we only occasionally “date” a new couple. Usually we meet couples at get-togethers or house parties. When we meet a couple for the first time, we are ready for full swap, and unless there is simply “bad chemistry” we end up playing full swap; it’s that simple.
Once when the four of us are alone, and after the brief “initial getting to know you a little better” small talk in the bedroom, we both kiss our playmates with extreme intense passion and pretty much do what our playmates want us to, as long as it’s in the normal civilized context. If it's remotely reasonable we will do what they want and try to create some great memories toward building a long-lasting friendship.
More often than not we play, nap, and play throughout the night, until the four of us wakeup together the next morning. But sometimes our playcouples need to work the next day or send the babysitter home, so we play for as long as we can and then they go home.
Have a question and need the guys point of view?
Email: DrWill@swinging101.info
Have a question and need the girls point of view?
Email: DrCher@swinging101.info
If you think it will feel good, calculate your risk/benefit factor, then if you think it will work for you - Just do it!
Dr. Will
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